Our Life in 3D
Do you know the difference in living your life in 3 D and confining yourself to 2 D or even less? What makes you think you aren’t worthy of going all-in? Are you calling the shots? Is your past holding you hostage? Are you coasting? Are you merely existing? Is there someone else steering you under the guise of guiding you, but it feels more like controlling you?
You must become the captain of your ship, and the master of your fate. Whatever it takes to free yourself. Trauma comes in many shapes, sizes and conditions. It looks different on everyone. It feels different on everyone, and it doesn’t need to be compared, rise to a certain level of seriousness, or fit any criteria you read about, hear about, or have had described to you in terms of understanding…did you feel this, or do you experience this, none of that crap matters. YOU matter. That is the end all and be all.
I became a coach because I do not follow most rules, I am different in the sense that I am a non-traditional, non-yielding, don’t coddle me, and I won’t smother you, kind of person. I am a realist, but also very empathetic. I believe in gentle, but not manipulation. I am nice, but not weak, and I put my time in to heal, and you will either want to or you probably won’t find the peace you are looking for in this life.
I lost my daughter and went through moments of despair like every other grieving parent of a lost child. I tried group counseling, but it was too much of a heavy atmosphere so early in my grief. I was referred for counseling and I had a tough time because I asked the simple question, have you lost a child, and if they said no, I could no longer continue the conversation.
Truly, I became my own best counselor. I read a lot, prayed a lot, and grieved through hard days, and began to journal what it looked like from the inside out. Eventually, I wrote my first book, “Mourning Has Broken”, two years in, and then another two years later, followed it with my second book, “My Grief, My Fear, My Faith”. I started to share my story, and do volunteer work and gradually, I was stepping outside my grief to help others.
Today, my life looks vastly different. I am so blessed and joyful because, I am living in full color in and in total view from all sides! When my bad side shows itself, I acknowledge it, let it hang out, because we all grieve, some days, worse than others. Healing simply means, I am giving myself permission to feel joy and peace, and love and laughter again!
We can grieve job loss, marriage, by death or divorce, relationship loss, whether it is a long term relationship, friendship, or loved one’s death. Anxiety may become your best friend for a while, don’t get too comfortable, like every other house guest, if they remain too long, it gets tiresome and annoying.
If you would like to connect and see if coaching is the answer for you, feel free to check in with me at: Radiant and Real Life a Facebook Group or Radiant and Real Life Alternative Healing, Facebook page, or hit the Contact page here on the website and leave your details. I will reach out and set up a complimentary 20 minute session to see if I would be a good fit for your Coaching needs.
Respectfully,
Roseanne